He'll Scratch Your Back If You Scratch His

There is a fundamental rule to any relationship that all good salespeople know.

If you can get a consumer to agree to a small purchase or even to accept something for free then they are much more likely to buy.

This is true in relationships, as well. If you can get a man to accept a free drink, a free cup of coffee or even a free ticket to his favorite game, he is much more likely to agree to:

1) you joining him

2) a conversation

3) a possible date

There is this slight feeling of obligation plus he will think you are really sweet for offering. Most men are used to doing the hard work of coming up with a witty line. If you make the asking out process easier they will be eternally grateful.

My first serious boyfriend saw that I had dropped some books on the way home from the bookstore. He offered to carry them home for me. This elevated him to hero status in my book and made it much harder to turn him down for a date.

Perhaps you could try this with a man in a bookstore who has books and a cup of coffee to carry. Offer to help him bring his things to the table. He just may let you join him.